So You Wanna Play With Magic?

Your mind’s logical attempt to inhibit you, “Remember, you weren’t looking for this.” “This is not a part of the plan.” You want to listen, but your emotions seem to have won this round. Imagine your Reasonable Mind (where you think logically and your behaviors are planned and calculated) in a steel cage match ring with your Emotion Mind (where your thoughts and behaviors are controlled mostly by your emotions). The two states of mind go at it; and just when you think your logic will prevail, your Emotion Mind Big Show Choke Slams your Reasonable Mind, pinning it down for 1, 2, 3—–DING! Your heart flutters as your Emotion Mind walks away with the championship belt. That victory has now left you in a place you have both feared and avoided for several years…A little place known as VULNERABLE!

We are taught that vulnerability is a sign of weakness. I agree that vulnerability is rather frightening, especially if you have ever had your feelings hurt, and I mean hurt for real. However, we have all experienced vulnerability, even the toughest of the tough. I like to view vulnerability as a vehicle which drives us toward strength, courage, enhanced abilities, and increased emotional stability. When feeling uncomfortably vulnerable, ask yourself, what is it about your situation that has made you feel this way? Engage in self-exploration and self-reflection and dissect the situation. Hopefully you will uncover the deeper issue and be able to work through it and progress, versus, run away from it and repeat undesired thought and behavior patterns.

I say, why not safely let your guards down, and within healthy boundaries decide to take a risk, and play with a little magic? Come on, I dare you to open yourself up to new opportunities.

~Hope you enjoy the jam! 😉

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That Moment When: You Recognize Your Blessings

I woke up Sunday morning anxious and overwhelmed. “Ugh!”, I sighed before even becoming fully awake. The weekend was filled with nonstop, yet fun activity. I had the pleasure of spending quality time with some great people as the birthdays of three special people in my life were celebrated. Of course I went H.A.M. and neglected my regular obligations. Thus, despite such a positive weekend infused with high energy, endless laughter, fun, excitement, and love; subconsciously, my thoughts veered toward the negative, dragging my mood and attitude south as my mind flooded with the countless freaking tedious, but necessary tasks that I must accomplish before the day’s end. I started to complain.

Before exiting my bed to engage in my morning routine, I became aware of my rather poor disposition. I checked myself, downshifted, and told myself to stay in my lane. First, all of the blah blah blah that I “must” do will absolutely be accomplished. As a young, successful, and independent woman, completion of necessary tasks is a part of the character description. Second, the weekend included so many precious moments that I am thankful to have been a part of them. Third, “Bitch, you woke up!”. Not only did I wake up, but I woke up in my warm and cozy bed, in my owned warm and cozy house. Just think about all of those who did not wake up Sunday morning, or those who do not have a home, or those who lack loving relationships, or even the means to enjoy first world fun?

Let me tell you that by incorporating mindfulness into my morning I was able to 180 and put energy into being grateful and recognizing my blessings. I am truly fortunate to be alive today and to have the people, places, things, and events that make up my life. Can anyone relate to this?

Beyond Your Blog: Freelancing, Getting Paid to Write, and Writing for Free

This caught my attention…..

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Many of you are growing as writers and seek opportunities beyond your blog. To continue this conversation, let’s talk about freelancing and getting paid to write, and the flip side of this: writing for free and exposure. We’ve rounded up four working writers who offer different perspectives on the business of writing:

  • Julie Schwietert Collazo, a bilingual writer/editor who has written for publications such as National Geographic Traveler and Scientific American, blogs at Cuaderno Inedito.
  • Caitlin Kelly, a National Magazine Award winner and frequent contributor to the New York Times, blogs at Broadside.
  • Kristen Hansen Brakeman, a writer who has contributed to the Washington Post and the New York TimesMotherlode, blogs at KristenBrakeman.com.
  • Deborah Lee Luskin, an award-winning novelist and radio commentator, blogs at Live to Write — Write to Live: a collaborative blog for the New Hampshire…

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CONFIDENCE!!! GET SOME!

Hands down, a confident man is a sexy man! Oooooweeeee! When I join forces with my future co conspirator in efforts to take over the world by way of endless knowledge, power, holy matrimony, procreation and family, and community service, trust and believe I will not hesitate to “tell everybody” about the CONFIDENT man by my side….and how fortunate he is to have teamed up with me, of course. 😉

Enjoy Aloe Blacc’s “The Man”; he kills it!

Daily Prompt: That’s Amore…”My First Love”

Think of your longest relationship: describe how your love has changed over time; did you go from the giddiness of infatuation, to mad passion, to deep respect, esteem, and friendship? Tell us about your love story.

We were on the metro bus when we noticed each other. I was chilling, you were chilling. We were both on our way to an event at our high school. We sparked up light convo, talking about whatever; probably nothing important. You were jamming with your portable compact disc player. I asked what you were listening to and you told me you had just copped that new Montell Jordan Jonx! When you asked if I wanted to listen, I felt butterflies in my stomach. As I listened to the rest of “Get it on Tonight”, I noticed how cute you were.

Once we arrived to our destination you offered to walk me to my group of friends before linking with yours. Funny, how you gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek before parting ways. I always wondered if you noticed my goofy ass friends giggling??? Who would’ve thought that moment would mark the beginning of a novel friendship turned puppy love; later turned significant intimate relationship, before ending in tragic heartbreak?

We loved hard! No one could touch us and nobody could tell us nothing! We had so much passion. I felt so happy and safe with you; cherished and respected you, until things changed and I no longer did. Regardless of how, why, when, and even where our relationship ended, you were the best first love a girl could ever ask for. Thank you for the good times and all of the life lessons. Thank you for being a part of my journey into womanhood and contributing to the successful woman I’ve become. The experience is priceless.

Sn: You can go choke yourself for all of the F*cked up times though. #RealTalk 😛 LOL

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Daily Prompt: Linger…”The Date”.

Tell us about times in which you linger – when you don’t want an event or a day to end. What is it you love about these times? Why do you wish you could linger forever?

Young, wild, and free, that’s me. And every so often the routine must be broken. “Sure, I’ll meet you for lunch”, spontaneously I accepted his invitation. Flooded by a host of thoughts and feelings: Anxiety, “Meeting people online is lame”; Doubt and Concern, “I’m way too busy for this”; Excitement, “I haven’t had fun in weeks, this could be fun”.

The anticipation of the set date, about a week out, was interesting. I found myself looking forward to meeting this man I’ve only seen in photographs and chatted with by way of text messages. But, hey, he seemed pretty cool, I guess, turn down for what? The day had arrived! Lunch was at 1:30p, was it? I recall rushing through my Saturday morning’s errands in efforts to be on time. I admit that I am stereotypically late, however I did not want to be late for our first live encounter. FAIL! We were both stereotypically late. Go figure. Not surprised.

So, lunch was at 2:00p. Neither of us were bothered by our tardiness. He arrived first and waited for me by the doors of the chosen establishment, where the main attraction is it’s pizza and beer. Nervously, I called him once parked to inform him of my arrival; it felt awkward. As I walked towards the doors I saw him through the glass, awaiting me in the foyer. He appeared just as anxiously playing it cool as I did. My mind raced for potential excuses to either get out of the date or end it early if need be. I chuckled to myself, yet smiled at him graciously, as we uttered our salutations.

Once seated and in his presence, I experienced a rather peculiar sensation throughout my mind and body. I felt as if I had known this stranger forever. Throughout our interactions, I became increasingly more comfortable. I made sure to text my friends to let them know they didn’t have to remain on standby, as I was throughly enjoying this man’s company. We presented with so much in common! He’s hysterical! Que bueno!

Our lunch date spilled over into happy hour, in which we carried the fun over to the next establishment, a popular Tex-Mex restaurant with amazing margaritas by the way. Would you believe that happy hour progressed into dinner? We were both consumed by each other and canceled all other set plans for our Saturday. Dinner turned into after dinner drinks, more chatting, little subtle touches, and cheesy gazes. This event did not unfold anywhere near as I had expected.

I’m not sure if he noticed, but I would look at him in complete disbelief at how well we were getting along. It typically takes me a while to warm up to people, but I couldn’t get enough of this fool. It was after midnight when we decided to leave. I’m sure we both figured we needed to conclude our rendezvous at some point. To this day, I am completely shocked at how concluding with each other at our cars, lead to his going back to my house.

Let me tell you that our epic lunch date came to a close at almost 5:00a Sunday morning! Now, before you draw any conclusions, I will end this blog by suggesting that you use your imaginations to fill in the gap——Just Kidding! We viewed a movie on Netflix and continued chatting until dosing off peacefully on my plump red couch. When he woke up, he awakened me so that he may finally return to his own domain.

It was apparent that we both wanted that moment to linger… Unbeknownst to him, that moment was the best moment I’ve had in a while. It was much needed and much appreciated. I personally accepted that moment for what it was, a break from the norm and an opportunity to kick back and let my hair down in some good company. Though I no longer linger in that specific moment, the pleasant memories continue to do so…linger…All Smiles. 😉

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