Fruits of Your Labor


“You have to learn how to slow down and enjoy the fruits, man”, says my BF in one of the long, random conversations we had over this past weekend. I recall getting into one of my rants of how I’m overwhelmed and tired from doing so much, yet, in the same breath, I talked about how I wanted to add more to my heavily piled plate! He took the time to highlight what I sounded like and he couldn’t have been more right. Oh my goodness! I do need to chill!

It’s funny that we are much alike in that we are very ambitious, determined, and driven… Oh and FOCUSED MaaaaAAAANNN! Some may also group us into the Stubborn and Hard-headed category, but that’s a conversation for a different day. Anyway, being so ambitious, determined, and driven can also mean that we do not know how to sit back, relax, and enjoy the fruits of our labor. I believe we both call each other out on this.

Speaking for myself, I guess I have operated like a well-oiled machine for so long that I don’t know what to do with myself when I’m not working on something or thinking about working on something. They say that you gotta work hard to play hard, but over the last several years I have found myself working extremely hard, accomplishing goals left and right, but not taking the time to match my play.

Now this isn’t to say that I never cut loose and enjoy myself from time to time. I’ve made some good memories, but I’m currently feeling extreme burnout. I’m all out of juice like a broke down hoopty on I-95. I’m getting to the point where I feel like something has to give. The funny thing is, I actually have some control here and I simply need to make a plan towards a solution for my problem and see it through. Is it weird that I feel guilty for resting and taking a time out for myself? Can any of you relate to this feeling? I know it’s because of some bogus fear/unrealistic expectation I place upon myself and I just need to push that load of crap aside and live.

I’m looking forward to it! Life is no joke short; I don’t want to waste anymore of whatever time I have left here on bullsh*t. Our conversation really got me hyped for doing more for me. Though I’m a Beachbody Coach, we talked about me joining a gym to have access to weights, etc. So, I went and toured a few. LA Fitness and Sport & Health were nice! Um, Planet Fitness didn’t do it for me. Lol. Then he suggested that I create my own workout space in my home, just for me. Hmmmm, that sounded good because I don’t have too much time, but for some reason I didn’t think I could do it. “I’m just going to join a gym”, I thought to myself, but then he encouraged it more and that idea became more appealing.

I became excited to have this private little space in my home for me and started putting it into action!


I moved stuff around (like that monstrous treadmill), purchased a weight bench (and put that joker together) and bam! Check it out. Lol! It’s not fancy, but it’s cute, mine, and functional. I just need to get a heavier set of weights, a barbell, and the Body Beast fitness program from Beachbody. Ooooooo, I can’t wait! Really, it is the little things. Putting that room together has lifted my spirits and I have been excited all week working out in there (beats working out in my bedroom)!

If you are feeling the burnout like I am, I encourage you, me, us, to chillax a bit in efforts to recognize how much our hard work has paid off.

Here’s to enjoying the fruits!


Let Me See You Workout

Whether you and your sweetie share the same level of passion for physical fitness, working out together can positively influence your relationship. After my guy and I completed a little run at a local high school’s track this morning, a few benefits of exercising together came to mind.

#1- You’ll Make Time For Exercise

For one reason or another people complain about not having sufficient time to workout. We’ve all either heard of some of the common excuses or used them ourselves: “I have to work”, “I’m tired”, “I have school”, “I have to take care of the kids”, “I’m going to happy hour”, etc. LOL. However, with all of that said, a lot of us young, hardworking professionals are honestly short on time. Thus, choosing exercise over time spent with your honey may be less likely. You can effectively tackle this situation by killing two birds with one stone, if you will. You two can plan and schedule a few workout dates at the gym, park/community, or even at home.

#2- You’ll Have Some Fun Added To Your Exercise

We both exercise independently. I know that he talks about mixing up his workout routine and I have been following his advice in efforts to gain optimal results from what I do. One of my complaints is that I get bored while running, but I have a personal goal of running more and improving my performance. Though I have forced myself to add running to my routine lately, running together today was less like a chore. He mentioned we put in 45 minutes or so and we were both surprised at how quickly the time had passed. I thought to myself, “This was great!” and realized it was actually a good time. I can say that I am looking forward to the next time we put in that work together.

#3- Exercise Gives You Another Opportunity To Bond

Both my guy and I have very busy schedules, like most people in this day and age, making it a weekly challenge to have direct face-to-face interactions with each other. Our daily texting, intermittent phone calls, and sporadic dates can only get us but so far. The face-to-face time we had exercising together today was valuable in that it allowed us time to chat and laugh together, a chance to see each other in a different setting….essentially, it allowed us time to bond while enjoying each other’s company.

#4- Exercise Can Be A Rather Stimulating Experience

That runner’s high though….. It feels good, it feels great on its own. Now add in seeing your significant other push and sweat and motivate you and encourage you. Can we say hot? I don’t know about you guys, but I say that’s HOT. And to think, I allowed him to see me with no makeup, hair and eyebrows a mess, (ok, well, the eyebrows didn’t have anything to do with the running, but I had to postpone my brow wax until post-our workout -LOL-) and sweaty. Well we were both sweaty and I’m sure a little stank, but we seemed to enjoy each other, were still attracted to each other, and I’m sure possessed impure thoughts about our smelly selves. 😉 


So, if you and your special someone are trying to figure out different ways to connect, consider exercising together. It will positively enhance your physical, mental, and emotional selves, and your relationship. Hope you enjoyed reading! Hope you enjoyed the jam! Hope you enjoyed my raw post-workout pic!

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