Fruits of Your Labor

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“You have to learn how to slow down and enjoy the fruits, man”, says my BF in one of the long, random conversations we had over this past weekend. I recall getting into one of my rants of how I’m overwhelmed and tired from doing so much, yet, in the same breath, I talked about how I wanted to add more to my heavily piled plate! He took the time to highlight what I sounded like and he couldn’t have been more right. Oh my goodness! I do need to chill!

It’s funny that we are much alike in that we are very ambitious, determined, and driven… Oh and FOCUSED MaaaaAAAANNN! Some may also group us into the Stubborn and Hard-headed category, but that’s a conversation for a different day. Anyway, being so ambitious, determined, and driven can also mean that we do not know how to sit back, relax, and enjoy the fruits of our labor. I believe we both call each other out on this.

Speaking for myself, I guess I have operated like a well-oiled machine for so long that I don’t know what to do with myself when I’m not working on something or thinking about working on something. They say that you gotta work hard to play hard, but over the last several years I have found myself working extremely hard, accomplishing goals left and right, but not taking the time to match my play.

Now this isn’t to say that I never cut loose and enjoy myself from time to time. I’ve made some good memories, but I’m currently feeling extreme burnout. I’m all out of juice like a broke down hoopty on I-95. I’m getting to the point where I feel like something has to give. The funny thing is, I actually have some control here and I simply need to make a plan towards a solution for my problem and see it through. Is it weird that I feel guilty for resting and taking a time out for myself? Can any of you relate to this feeling? I know it’s because of some bogus fear/unrealistic expectation I place upon myself and I just need to push that load of crap aside and live.

I’m looking forward to it! Life is no joke short; I don’t want to waste anymore of whatever time I have left here on bullsh*t. Our conversation really got me hyped for doing more for me. Though I’m a Beachbody Coach, we talked about me joining a gym to have access to weights, etc. So, I went and toured a few. LA Fitness and Sport & Health were nice! Um, Planet Fitness didn’t do it for me. Lol. Then he suggested that I create my own workout space in my home, just for me. Hmmmm, that sounded good because I don’t have too much time, but for some reason I didn’t think I could do it. “I’m just going to join a gym”, I thought to myself, but then he encouraged it more and that idea became more appealing.

I became excited to have this private little space in my home for me and started putting it into action!

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I moved stuff around (like that monstrous treadmill), purchased a weight bench (and put that joker together) and bam! Check it out. Lol! It’s not fancy, but it’s cute, mine, and functional. I just need to get a heavier set of weights, a barbell, and the Body Beast fitness program from Beachbody. Ooooooo, I can’t wait! Really, it is the little things. Putting that room together has lifted my spirits and I have been excited all week working out in there (beats working out in my bedroom)!

If you are feeling the burnout like I am, I encourage you, me, us, to chillax a bit in efforts to recognize how much our hard work has paid off.

Here’s to enjoying the fruits!

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Procurement of Fruit

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So exactly two weeks ago, after church class (RCIA), I went to the grocery store to pick up some last minute food items in order to complete my prep cook for the rest of the work week.  I typically do this on Sundays, but I had a lazy Sunday after getting into some shenanigans the Saturday before and opted out of my normal prep cooking ritual. I recall being extremely tired as it was almost 9:30pm when I was walking into the local whack ass Food Lion (I was definitely too lazy to drive out of the way to Safeway or Wegmans). I skimmed my list as I darted thru the produce, meat, and frozen food sections.  “I just want to get the hell home”, I thought repeatedly to myself.  I spent all of 10/15 min gathering my necessities in that bad boy before heading to the checkout line. “Almost there!” I thought to myself.

While the young kid is scanning and bagging my items, I have him stop to scan my discount card so I can throw my keys back into my pocket. I also swipe my check card so I can put my wallet away. I’m telling you I was focused on getting home asap! The kid seems nervous for some reason.  He’s smiling awkwardly at me and trying to make small chit chat, but I’m thinking, “Look man, not today, because you are not focusing on the scanning and bagging”. LOL. I’m not rude, so of course I indulge him. We get to the last item, my pink lady apples…Three of them in the bag, ready to rock. But, of course we run into an issue where all of a sudden the scale isn’t working so he’s unable to price the apples.  He tries a few tricks to get the machine going, however, all failed.  I tell him, “Don’t worry, thank you.  I can leave without the apples.  I’m ready to pay”. He apologizes and I smiled politely while thinking, “Damn, I will have to return to the store another time”, because there was no way I was going to complete that transaction and start a new one in another line.

Now while this is going down, the patron behind me sparks up conversation. I did recognize him from the week before when he was actually behind me in line when I came to the store for items after church on Ash Wednesday.  He said, “Excuse me Miss, don’t I know you from somewhere?”. Sigh…..I replied with, “No, you don’t, but I do recall you being behind me last week when we were shopping here”.  His face lit up as he said, “Yes, that’s right, and you are looking beautiful as ever”.  Sigh…… “Thank you sir”, I said.  He’s an older gentleman probably in his late 40s, a little heavy set, with kind eyes. He was appropriate and polite, but since my last break up I have been turned off from other males trying to holla and/or even give me complements (Idk, I’m in a weird place at the moment), I’m just not ready to entertain all of that yet.

Welp, my transaction is complete.  I say goodnight to both him and the young employee and I’m out. It was cold as a mutha out, but I was excited to be closer to being home. I pop open Lucille’s trunk (She’s my car) toss them groceries, push the cart to the cart holder, and jump in my car. As I was jumping in, the gentleman that was behind me in line briskly walked over to my car with a skimp bag.  He’s says with the biggest, and no lie, kind of creepy grin ever, “Miss, here’s your apples!”. I smiled and even felt a little moved.  I said, “You purchased my apples? Wow, I appreciate you doing that”. He said, “It was my pleasure, have a good night”. He turned, walked away, and got into his car.

I took a second to thank God for that moment, but keep in mind it was a short second because I had to dip out of that parking lot and make sure I wasn’t followed. I’m hypervigilant. I appreciate any acts of kindness I receive, because for some reason I don’t get them often (Perhaps I’m too independent for my own good sometimes). Hmmmm….

Thanks for reading.

Let Me See You Workout

Whether you and your sweetie share the same level of passion for physical fitness, working out together can positively influence your relationship. After my guy and I completed a little run at a local high school’s track this morning, a few benefits of exercising together came to mind.

#1- You’ll Make Time For Exercise

For one reason or another people complain about not having sufficient time to workout. We’ve all either heard of some of the common excuses or used them ourselves: “I have to work”, “I’m tired”, “I have school”, “I have to take care of the kids”, “I’m going to happy hour”, etc. LOL. However, with all of that said, a lot of us young, hardworking professionals are honestly short on time. Thus, choosing exercise over time spent with your honey may be less likely. You can effectively tackle this situation by killing two birds with one stone, if you will. You two can plan and schedule a few workout dates at the gym, park/community, or even at home.

#2- You’ll Have Some Fun Added To Your Exercise

We both exercise independently. I know that he talks about mixing up his workout routine and I have been following his advice in efforts to gain optimal results from what I do. One of my complaints is that I get bored while running, but I have a personal goal of running more and improving my performance. Though I have forced myself to add running to my routine lately, running together today was less like a chore. He mentioned we put in 45 minutes or so and we were both surprised at how quickly the time had passed. I thought to myself, “This was great!” and realized it was actually a good time. I can say that I am looking forward to the next time we put in that work together.

#3- Exercise Gives You Another Opportunity To Bond

Both my guy and I have very busy schedules, like most people in this day and age, making it a weekly challenge to have direct face-to-face interactions with each other. Our daily texting, intermittent phone calls, and sporadic dates can only get us but so far. The face-to-face time we had exercising together today was valuable in that it allowed us time to chat and laugh together, a chance to see each other in a different setting….essentially, it allowed us time to bond while enjoying each other’s company.

#4- Exercise Can Be A Rather Stimulating Experience

That runner’s high though….. It feels good, it feels great on its own. Now add in seeing your significant other push and sweat and motivate you and encourage you. Can we say hot? I don’t know about you guys, but I say that’s HOT. And to think, I allowed him to see me with no makeup, hair and eyebrows a mess, (ok, well, the eyebrows didn’t have anything to do with the running, but I had to postpone my brow wax until post-our workout -LOL-) and sweaty. Well we were both sweaty and I’m sure a little stank, but we seemed to enjoy each other, were still attracted to each other, and I’m sure possessed impure thoughts about our smelly selves. 😉 

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So, if you and your special someone are trying to figure out different ways to connect, consider exercising together. It will positively enhance your physical, mental, and emotional selves, and your relationship. Hope you enjoyed reading! Hope you enjoyed the jam! Hope you enjoyed my raw post-workout pic!

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