Happy Valentine’s Day!


Waking up blessed! I feel like sending some love out into the universe.  (Gotta catch me while it’s hot because I’ll be back to telling everyone to kiss my grits soon enough) lmfaooooo.

Enjoy the day with loved ones! Love is so beautiful, I just haven’t been lucky in that department… Good thing I love my damn self!  Hahaz. #TeamAries for you…. 😉

Thanks for stopping by #unitedindependence appreciates every bit of it!


Let Me See You Workout

Whether you and your sweetie share the same level of passion for physical fitness, working out together can positively influence your relationship. After my guy and I completed a little run at a local high school’s track this morning, a few benefits of exercising together came to mind.

#1- You’ll Make Time For Exercise

For one reason or another people complain about not having sufficient time to workout. We’ve all either heard of some of the common excuses or used them ourselves: “I have to work”, “I’m tired”, “I have school”, “I have to take care of the kids”, “I’m going to happy hour”, etc. LOL. However, with all of that said, a lot of us young, hardworking professionals are honestly short on time. Thus, choosing exercise over time spent with your honey may be less likely. You can effectively tackle this situation by killing two birds with one stone, if you will. You two can plan and schedule a few workout dates at the gym, park/community, or even at home.

#2- You’ll Have Some Fun Added To Your Exercise

We both exercise independently. I know that he talks about mixing up his workout routine and I have been following his advice in efforts to gain optimal results from what I do. One of my complaints is that I get bored while running, but I have a personal goal of running more and improving my performance. Though I have forced myself to add running to my routine lately, running together today was less like a chore. He mentioned we put in 45 minutes or so and we were both surprised at how quickly the time had passed. I thought to myself, “This was great!” and realized it was actually a good time. I can say that I am looking forward to the next time we put in that work together.

#3- Exercise Gives You Another Opportunity To Bond

Both my guy and I have very busy schedules, like most people in this day and age, making it a weekly challenge to have direct face-to-face interactions with each other. Our daily texting, intermittent phone calls, and sporadic dates can only get us but so far. The face-to-face time we had exercising together today was valuable in that it allowed us time to chat and laugh together, a chance to see each other in a different setting….essentially, it allowed us time to bond while enjoying each other’s company.

#4- Exercise Can Be A Rather Stimulating Experience

That runner’s high though….. It feels good, it feels great on its own. Now add in seeing your significant other push and sweat and motivate you and encourage you. Can we say hot? I don’t know about you guys, but I say that’s HOT. And to think, I allowed him to see me with no makeup, hair and eyebrows a mess, (ok, well, the eyebrows didn’t have anything to do with the running, but I had to postpone my brow wax until post-our workout -LOL-) and sweaty. Well we were both sweaty and I’m sure a little stank, but we seemed to enjoy each other, were still attracted to each other, and I’m sure possessed impure thoughts about our smelly selves. 😉 


So, if you and your special someone are trying to figure out different ways to connect, consider exercising together. It will positively enhance your physical, mental, and emotional selves, and your relationship. Hope you enjoyed reading! Hope you enjoyed the jam! Hope you enjoyed my raw post-workout pic!

What’s That Saying Again?

Wise men and women across the earth have exclaimed that one cannot have his or her cake and eat it too. I use to wonder, “Well, why the hell not?” However, as an adult women who has had intimate relationships, I now fully understand. If you’ve made the choice to establish a relationship with another, in other words, if you have decided to share some of yourself with another, then things are no longer all about you. You must be considerate of both you and the other party’s desires. At any time you are unwilling to do so, then that’s the time you need to make the decision to leave the relationship and keep to your damn self. Once I notice that any of my relationships are too one-sided, I’m on it. If things do not improve, I’m out! I have had a few opportunities to turn my back on inconsiderate pricks….just packed up my baggage, slipped into my flip flops and I’m out the door. Feels good to know your worth! #0FKSGVN.

Hope you enjoy this jam as much as I do. 😉


Daily Post: Music Marker

We all have songs that remind us of specific periods and events in our lives. Twenty years from now, which song will remind you of the summer of 2014?

First of all, Oh My God, music is my lifeeeeeeee and I would have to have like an entire playlist complete with a mix of both old and new jams that could possibly represent this Summer of 2014. This summer, well, pretty much this year thus far is turning out to be a rather interesting time in my life. If I had to narrow it down to one song that is representative of current events in my life or to that one song that gets me super excited, happy, and truly feeling good……… I would choose, “Summer” by Calvin Harris. I can really dig his jams. Always a fist-pumping good time!!!! 😉




Just Because I Do!

This throwback jam has had me rockin’ out all week. Yes, I gets my alternative on sometimes. Don’t judge me! It’s funny that I was a freshman in high school when this song was released, but that does not mean the message is not valid. I find that I am attracted to people for various reasons. I do not really have a type…I go with how the person makes me feel.

I have only really had what people refer to as “real feelings” for a total of three people within my little 29 years of life. The other two are in the past, so I am relating this post to my present. He has made comments, essentially asking why do I like him. I have kind of been offended, because, I’m like, don’t ask me that, MoFo, just accept it and roll with it.

With that said, his questioning of my affection has led me to actually giving it some thought. I have drawn the conclusion that I simply like him for him. This has naturally led me to recalling the attached song, “Hey Leonardo (She Likes Me For Me)” by Blessid Union of Souls. Anyone who truly knows me, knows that my life is a big song filled with endless lyrics. Lol!

I guess I will let him know that I like him because he is an awesome person and at this time I welcome him in my life. So, let’s ride this thing out til the muthafluffin wheels fall off!

Hope you enjoyed the jam and my rant!

Daily Prompt: Que Sera Sera

Do you believe in fate or do you believe you can control your own destiny?

Briskly walking down this long road of the unknown with fear in my heart, but courage in my eyes, I make the trek! I figure, Hell, I can see and have common sense. Yea, Yea, I know what I want versus what I don’t want. I am an able-bodied person and have enough life experiences to deal with whatever I may encounter along the way, right? Right.

Thus far my journey has consisted of countless situations that have taken me both over rocky mountains and into lush valleys; both through heavy storms and through green pastures under sunny blue skies lined with rainbows. I have had the opportunity to both win and lose. I have experienced grief and loss, guilt and shame; thank goodness for the pride and joy, happiness, fulfillment, and sheer bliss that I have also experienced.

One thing I have managed to learn along the way is that the more I would try to control my life, the more challenging and disappointing it would become. Some things are what they are. When I would simply allow things to take their natural course, my blessings would be revealed and I would be more fulfilled. It was through my line of work that I was introduced to the “Serenity Prayer”. The prayer reads as follows:

“God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.”

I find it important to keep the prayer in mind as I travel along…..Remembering the prayer at opportune times definitely helps to reduce unwanted anxiety.

I, like some other people, believe that things happen for a reason, but a lot of us are not centered and/or open enough to receive life’s precious gifts and/or receive life lessons. To answer the Daily Prompt question, I do believe in fate; whatever will be, will be. It’s just that sometimes that belief is questioned and challenged whenever I feel compelled to try to control my destiny.

I am aware this prompt was posted about three weeks ago, but it was too thought provoking to pass up. Hope you enjoyed reading!


So You Wanna Play With Magic?

Your mind’s logical attempt to inhibit you, “Remember, you weren’t looking for this.” “This is not a part of the plan.” You want to listen, but your emotions seem to have won this round. Imagine your Reasonable Mind (where you think logically and your behaviors are planned and calculated) in a steel cage match ring with your Emotion Mind (where your thoughts and behaviors are controlled mostly by your emotions). The two states of mind go at it; and just when you think your logic will prevail, your Emotion Mind Big Show Choke Slams your Reasonable Mind, pinning it down for 1, 2, 3—–DING! Your heart flutters as your Emotion Mind walks away with the championship belt. That victory has now left you in a place you have both feared and avoided for several years…A little place known as VULNERABLE!

We are taught that vulnerability is a sign of weakness. I agree that vulnerability is rather frightening, especially if you have ever had your feelings hurt, and I mean hurt for real. However, we have all experienced vulnerability, even the toughest of the tough. I like to view vulnerability as a vehicle which drives us toward strength, courage, enhanced abilities, and increased emotional stability. When feeling uncomfortably vulnerable, ask yourself, what is it about your situation that has made you feel this way? Engage in self-exploration and self-reflection and dissect the situation. Hopefully you will uncover the deeper issue and be able to work through it and progress, versus, run away from it and repeat undesired thought and behavior patterns.

I say, why not safely let your guards down, and within healthy boundaries decide to take a risk, and play with a little magic? Come on, I dare you to open yourself up to new opportunities.

~Hope you enjoy the jam! 😉

Beyond Your Blog: Freelancing, Getting Paid to Write, and Writing for Free

This caught my attention…..

The Daily Post


Many of you are growing as writers and seek opportunities beyond your blog. To continue this conversation, let’s talk about freelancing and getting paid to write, and the flip side of this: writing for free and exposure. We’ve rounded up four working writers who offer different perspectives on the business of writing:

  • Julie Schwietert Collazo, a bilingual writer/editor who has written for publications such as National Geographic Traveler and Scientific American, blogs at Cuaderno Inedito.
  • Caitlin Kelly, a National Magazine Award winner and frequent contributor to the New York Times, blogs at Broadside.
  • Kristen Hansen Brakeman, a writer who has contributed to the Washington Post and the New York TimesMotherlode, blogs at KristenBrakeman.com.
  • Deborah Lee Luskin, an award-winning novelist and radio commentator, blogs at Live to Write — Write to Live: a collaborative blog for the New Hampshire…

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