Feeling Inspired

“Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” – Muriel Strode (Author).

Sunday evening after I had successfully submitted paper three for my online course (I am so close to becoming a LPC), a dear friend of mine texted me, inviting me out for hookah! I figured that it was a better move than spending the rest of the evening at home, alone, on a holiday weekend and after experiencing a great loss (We’ll get into that another time). So, off I went. As I got ready and headed out, I thought about how long it has been since I have been out with friends, or have had much fun, or even got my blog on. As the summer comes to a close, I realized that I have been rather swamped these days adulting and what not. I have been managing three jobs as a mental health professional (one full time and two part times), family issues, and my own personal life stressors. As I pulled up to the Lebanese Restaurant (In my Homer Simpson Voice, “Mmmmm, Lebanese Restaurant”), I let those thoughts subside and decided to be in the moment with my homie.

I was a fabulous night with clear skies and crisp air with low humidity (My hair and sweat glands were thankful). We caught up on our lives and laughed at jokes while toking on our gum mint and grape filled shisha and sipping on mint tea. The menu looked scrumptious, loaded with some of my favs, but I was unable to indulge due to my Whole30 diet plan (3 weeks in!!!). Dude! I wanted a craft beer or a glass of Malbec so bad, but I abstained. Don’t worry; I had a Larabar in my bag in case ish got real (Which it did towards the end of the night, LOL!).

Anyway, after a while, two older men at the table next to us started up a conversation with us. They introduced themselves and the conversation lead to their travel adventures. A great deal of their travel was work related as they are in the business of satellite communications and some was for leisure over the years. My homie fit right into the conversation since he was born overseas and has lived in/traveled to many different countries. I have been to a few places (mainly around the U.S. and the Caribbean), but I did not have much to offer for travel experiences. With that said, I thoroughly enjoyed listening to them rattle off all the places they’ve been. Thailand, Dubai, Australia, London, Various parts of the Caribbean, Korea, Japan, Brazil, Argentina, just to name a few. The conversation was delightful; I was so entertained and inspired. I got that travel/new experiences itch bad. The last time that I traveled was about a year ago. I am close to accomplishing a huge career goal and once that is done, I’m ready to live a little more!

Coming across the quote at the start of this post contributed to my reflection on the above. The quote, alone, was motivating. I receive daily quotes to my work email from Values.Com and I love them. The challenge paired with this quote is to “Take a spontaneous trip, and explore a new place; even if it’s in your own town.” Ay Yi Captain! I have discussed this many times with my significant other within the past two and a half years. Though we have adult life focuses, we still need to have fun and experience life in a bit of a spontaneous way. Ya know, to keep things interesting!

I had to step away for a bit so that I can get my life, but I’ll be back! It is funny how a simple impromptu outing can leave you pondering life. Consider the quote and its challenge for yourselves.  Get out there and do your thing!

#UnitedIndependence = Accomplishing our individual goals together!

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True Colors

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Though most colors are beautiful, everyone’s true colors aren’t… If u are giving, ya bet your sweet ass people are taking! But let’s be real, that doesn’t mean that they value you… Make sure you stay clear on that.

Thanks for stopping by and joining me as I learn thru experience; let’s learn these life lessons together.

#happyhumpday

Time Well Spent

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I ran across this on FB and it left me pondering. I have an idea of how I think things should be, but what I actually have doesn’t quite meet that expectation. We all know that things not meeting your expectations typically equals disappointment. However, in this case it isn’t a bad thing at all. After seeing my significant other in his environment and around his friends, while he was in the zone, I was provided with a new perspective and understanding about who he is. One’s friends can provide a lot of insight about a person. No one is perfect, and we may not vibe well in a few areas, but he is truly something and I’m delighted that our paths had the opportunity to cross. Though things with us are a bit unconventional, and sometime seem more complicated than I feel is necessary, we both have clearly invested time and the experience is priceless. Invested time is a big deal because time ain’t cheap! Word to the wise, if you feel like you are wasting time, then simply stop. Guess we’ll rock until one of us decides to stop.

**Raises Glass** Until then……

Frustration…

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Frustration is a general symptom of the “Things just aren’t going my way” Syndrome.  Likewise, it is a common symptom of the “Everyone around me  f***ing sucks and I keep hoping that they’ll stop f***ing sucking, but they never f***ing do” Syndrome.

I am typically optimistic and hopeful, but today the frustrations are running ever so high and I’m honestly baffled by the things that keep happening. I have been sitting back and watching out for people’s words to finally match their behavior(s) and after so many consecutive fails, my hopefulness decreases after each instance. Damn, is it going to get better? Sh*t! Or will my hopefulness decrease until there’s nothing left?

Ever feel like you wanna gouge your own eyeballs out and disconnect? Don’t tell me I’m the only one. :-\ I’m asking for the good Lord to give me strenf aka strength!

#happywednesday hope you enjoyed the read. Feel free to like and/or comment. LoL. This post was triggered by me running across the attached meme and actually having a really stressful day. But, know that I’m a boss, am grabbing the day by its balls, and making it do what it do. Don’t let anything/anyone bring you down my loves! *Muahz*

That instrumental doe….. “Frustration” lol.

Lovers and Friends

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Over the weekend I gave myself some time to just sit and think; it was quite lovely, really. Randomly I started thinking about the terms, “friend”, “best friend” and “boyfriend” (significant other). I started to recall those who have held these positions in my life and how many changes have occurred over the years (totally experienced the full spectrum of emotion, lol, sigh…..). I also thought about the value I’ve placed on these positions, both in the past and present, and started speculating how much I would value them in the future…..

What I realized is that it’s very nice to have friends and a significant other, you know, people you are supposed to be able to trust, experience life with, and create memories with; people you can share mutual love, respect, and concern with. However, as I get older, I find that though I still put value on relationships, I definitely feel less pressure to have and maintain them, especially when it requires too much effort on my part.

I believe that true friends and true love develop and persist effortlessly. And I can honestly say that those are the only relationships I’m interesting in having. I’ve been working my way through a few folks by taking a step back and clearly seeing our current relationship dynamic. Readers, I challenge you to give this some thought in your own lives, you may discover something. I concluded those thoughts for now and will probably consider the following another time: The relationships I may have grown out of, the ones that are unequal, the ones that are emotionally draining, and the ones that are irrelevant. I rather keep focus on the relationships that matter in moving forward.

Thank you for stopping by and being a part of my journey as I get closer to being the best woman I can be. This is what it’s all about, supporting each other in reaching our individual life goals (#unitedindependence). We live and we learn, and if we’re lucky we also grow and advance.

Who Dafaq Do You Think You Are Dealing With?

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(Lol so many funny memes out there! Love it!)

I found myself pondering this exact question today after finally having a moment of downtime during my 12hour work shift.  I started replaying interactions I’ve recently had with some folks that hadn’t gone down too well….. Scrunching my face and shaking my damn head, it hit me that some people are just plain stupid. I’m slowly counting down the days until I hit the big 30, eh hem, in April, eh hem, and realized that though I’m older and though those I tend to associate with are my age or older, some folks are simply well behind the learning curve when it comes to exhibiting adult-like behaviors. Well, at least those adult-like behaviors which are acceptable to me.  Before the end of last year, I was on this “F*&% Everybody” flow, and I was just reminded of why. When people around you make you go, “Ewe!” CUT THEM OFF! Life is too short to waste time on those who don’t matter.

Now, you are probably wondering how does this lady talk about being in love one day and sending everyone to Hell the next day? LOL, Well, we are multidimensional beings; that’s just how it is. Hope you enjoyed reading my quick and random thoughts as I wrap up my extremely hectic work day.

Just remember that sometimes in efforts to stay on your course and to get ahead, some people, places, things, and/or events in your life must cease to exist….. #Deuces.

#unitedindependence wishes you a good night!

Know How I Know That I Love You?

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Because even through the difficult times you are able to put a smile on my face.  And even when we are distant and fighting our own battles, I am still able to feel close to you. You make me feel comfortable to present my vulnerabilities so that you may see me for who I am; you follow that up with full respect for me and you always have my best interest at heart. I think about you not only when I’m bored and/or lonely, but when I’m extremely busy and preoccupied with my own business. I typically say that I do what I want, but with you, I’m willing to communicate, compromise, and make small sacrifices to be with you. I want to share things with you, from funny jokes to the mundane happenings at work, and in turn, I am eager to learn new things about you. When I see you and all that you do, not only am I proud of you, but I admire you and want to be your personal cheerleader. If you need help, I wouldn’t think twice about helping you. Though I don’t really care too much for the mushy stuff, I see your face and want to smother it with kisses and give you long, loving hugs. Awww. When I’m out shopping I see things that you may like and want to get it for you. I don’t mind to cook for you; I’d cook for you every day if that’s what you wanted. I’m already pretty damn awesome as is, but you inspire me to be an even better person.  You inspire me in a lot of ways, like you even inspire me to do unexpected things to surprise you…….. (wink). Lastly, I’m not perfect, but you love me anyway. So, you know how I know that I love you? Because, I love all of you, as you are; for me you are the best!

PSA: It’s ok to love, don’t be afraid to express it! Hope you enjoyed reading! Just another one of my random ramblings…..

Stay up, love birds! 😉

Ping (I took a screenshot of this foto. ;-P)

Happy New Year!

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Thank you for all of the love and support of my blog this past year. I’ve had a blast within the blogger community.

Stay tuned to see what 2015 has to offer! Be blessed folks!

I’m Focused Man!

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My generation seems to be telling people “No, F*ck You!” with the quickness!  LOL, and you know what, I’m not upset and/or threatened by it, because I seem to have adopted that entire mentality myself.  Now keep in mind whenever I write, it’s for fun and entertainment. Don’t get butt-hurt or offended by anything on my blog, but know that if you do, that’s totally a personal problem. 😉

Now the foto attached to this post is what inspired me today.  But, anyway, you know everyone is on that “New Year, New Me” bullcrap, but the “new me” I personally have going on right now didn’t come with the impending New Year; it’s been an ongoing work in progress.  I grow and learn every day, trust and believe it!  I am also always engaging in self-reflection (I can blame my studies in psychology and my profession as a Mental Health Professional for that) and have reflected over the past year, of course.  I realized that I was tried and tested a lot!  Now, overall this year has been a great transition for me; I can recall lots of precious moments that I feel blessed to have experienced.

However, at the same time, I definitely faced a few big challenges, dealt with a significant amount of loss and even had my heart broken (aww, boo hoo). With all of that said, I’m still here to tell the muthaflippin story though, AND I stand here better than before.  (insert #hairflip here – lol) Frankly, that’s all that matters, right?  Like, I have friends who are no longer here with us (just went to a long-time friend’s funeral about a week and a half ago), so really, what do I have to complain about? In the grand scheme of things my loves, NADA.  I totally have a handle on what and who I want, and you know what? I’m going to continue on my path; I know what I’m doing… Even though I had a few folks try to tell me otherwise.  My response to that was “Fack Outta Here!”

Take this post as encouragement for those of us out there working hard to be better than ever.  I wish us all well!  We can do it!  Don’t allow those Negatrons, you know the ones lurking in the shadows, into your beautiful world.  Build your strength, fight, and send them as far into outer space as you can!  Just be careful because they come in disguise, and can be quite deceptive #decepticons. 😉 I truly crack myself up!

PSA: Haters, stay out of my way as there is, without question, no space for you here.  I’m focused man!

#HappyMonday Readers! Note: the jam is explicit, but hey, I’m an adult. Enjoy!

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